Tantric orgasms

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It is generally believed that females are capable of having three types of orgasms — clitoral, vaginal, and blended — and males experience a single, more general type of orgasm.  Tantra introduces a different type of orgasm available to both males and females — the “energy” or “heart” orgasm.  Tantra preaches being “in your heart” at all times, meaning being aware of the positivity and erotic energy inside of yourself, and suggests that it is possible to transform these blissful feelings into a full-body orgasmic state of being.

Massage and Meditate – Take at least one hour to exchange full-body massages with your partner. They can include some genital stimulation but not intercourse.  Focus on fully giving and receiving.   With one hand on your partner’s lower back and the other between their shoulder blades, and have them hold you in the same way.  Stay like this for five minutes, and focus on syncing your breathing with each other.  By connecting in these non-sexual ways, you and your partner may be able to find new sources of pleasure and better understand how to interact both inside and outside of the bedroom

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Being sexual is natural!

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Many people are ashamed to talk or to express their sexuality, further more to accept their own sexual desires as being part of a normal life. It is well known if sexually we are not satisfied, we start to be frustrated and our behaviour changes gradually. I suppose some realised how easy is to grow a frustration into a big problem which sometimes leads to depression, isolation, aggressiveness etc.

Being sexual it’s part of human nature and it’s a basic instinct, a survival instinct. First because fulfilment of sexual needs gives us a great mind and body relaxation and second it’s part of procreation. It’s the way our species will survive. That’s why it’s almost impossible to remove sexual instinct from our DNA.

Being social makes us adopt social believes and behaviours related to the culture we grew up and we still live. Many times sexuality is considered to be a tabu subject, but ignoring or avoiding it won’t make it disappear. It will still be there and we still need to deal with it!

Instead of feeling sick, angry, awkward, ashamed or in any other way, we should accept that it’s part of us and will influence our lives and decisions. Understanding our own nature will lead to acceptance and a great relief.

Worrying and feeling guilty will make the situation worse and will consume much more energy to fight it than to embrace it!

Some feel guilty or dirty because are sexual aroused but many think of it as being something bad, which it isn’t, it’s just natural to be sexual. Tantric massage helps to relax your entire body and to feel how your body is lighter and think clearer. Removing the tension and anxiety from your head and body will lift your spirit and will help you to see the world in a better light!

Enjoy the benefits of being sexual and use it in your favour!

Tantra massage in London

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Tantra massage is an intimate massage technique that is used both to promote relaxation and to create a more intimate connection between partners though rhythmic breathing and sharing energy.

What is Tantra massage? Tantra massage combines sexual energy with traditional massage techniques. The idea behind Tantra massage is to awaken the seven energy centers known as chakras. These energy centers are located along the spine, and the masseuse will align these to release the energy stored within, which will allow blocked energy to unravel and flow throughout the body, starting at the base of the spine and rising throughout the rest of the body.

Benefits of Tantra Massage

Improve Breathing Techniques

This type of massage is often combined with breathing techniques known as pranayama. This is intended to move energy throughout the body more effectively. When performed regularly, Tantra massage and the associated breathing techniques can be used to improve breathing techniques overall. This can improve alertness and exercising capabilities. Improved breathing and relaxation can also improve healing time from injury and diseases.

Relax Body and Mind

Like any type of massage, Tantra massages can be used to relax the body. In addition to relieving physical ailments, Tantra massage can be used to allow emotional pain to subside. Many people claim that they feel less guilty or fearful after receiving a Tantra massage. Some also find that they feel more alert and energetic, which allows them be more active during the day and sleep more soundly at night.

Create Sexual Arousal

Tantra massage can be used as a method of creating sexual arousal between couples. When performed between lovers, this technique can be used to strengthen the connection between them and lead to a more intimate evening. However, given this potential effect of the massage it is important to remember that arousal is still possible if you are having a Tantra massage performed by a professional. In a professional setting it is important to inform the masseuse if you are feeling any sensations that are too intimate and make you uncomfortable.

London Tantric Massage

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In a Tantra massage session, your whole body is touched with total attentiveness, sensitivity and love.

The person giving the massage will be fully or nearly naked. So there can emerge an open and natural space for a meeting beyond the mainstream ideas of masculinity, femininity and the sexuality defined by society.

In this honest atmosphere you can let your masks of everyday life just fade away. You are welcome with all your needs and emotions and a feeling of wholeness can blossom.

Tantra massages are special because you are revered in your femininity or masculinity – not just to arouse you, but rather to liberate without intention. In this way you can come back to yourself and feel that you are whole and perfect.

Body and Soul ( tantric massage London)

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Deep inside we look for acceptance and loving care and touch. 

Allowing another person to touch you in such an emotional depth, in an intensity which helps you dare to relinquish self-control step by step and start to rely on the waves of your feelings and sentiments, requires trust, based on absolute appreciation and acceptance as well as on the professionalism of the provider.

The worship and the feeling of security which you will experience in the course of my Tantric massage will give you the confidence needed to feel ready and safe enough for a unique sensual experience. 

In calmness and relaxation your needs and wishes will be satisfied resting upon underlying circumstances which will widen and deepen your sensitivity and your impression of sexuality. These inspiring experiences will be yours forever. You might integrate them into your every-day-life and your relationships. You will be able to communicate them with affinity in a very natural way and they will enrich your private life tremendously.

Aging & Men’s Sexual Performance

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Age-Related Decline in Male Sexual Performance
One of the most common complaints of aging men is the decline in their sexual performance. Men’s sexual peak usually occurs at around the age of 18. For most, it’s usually downhill from there – for some, significant declines in sexual performance can occur as early as in their late 20s. Aging is usually correlated with a longer time to achieve full erection, a less firm erection, lower libido or sex drive, a decline in sexual stamina, inadequate sensation, and unsatisfactory ejaculation.

Aging and Decline in Testosterone Level
As men age, their production of DHEA, as well as testosterone and other androgens or sex hormones decline. It’s been estimated that for every year over the age of forty, men’s testosterone level drops by one percent1. About twenty percent of men in their sixties and fifty percent of men in their eighties have significantly reduced testosterone levels.

As testosterone is a key hormone in men’s sexual functions, aging-related decline in testosterone levels has a negative impact on men’s sexual performance.

Other Factors that Contribute to Poor Sexual Performance
For some men, the effect of aging on the decline in their sexual performance is further complicated with other factors, such as pain and fatigue. Pain caused by age-related diseases, such as arthritis and diabetes, can make sex less enjoyable. Likewise, fatigue and muscle soreness can impair men’s sex drive.

As sexual performance is closely related to men’s overall health, factors that affect general health, such as anxiety, stress, and psychological factors, can also affect sexual performance. Fortunately, any decline associated with these factors is usually reversed once the underlying factors are resolved.

Other causes of poor sexual performance include cigarette smoking and tobacco chewing, as well as alcohol and drug abuse.

Reversing the Decline in Sexual Performance
The good news is that much of the aging-related decline in men’s sexual performance can be reversed. First, men should aim for a healthy, stress-free, and active lifestyle. Quitting smoking, alcohol, and drug use – if they are a factor – can contribute not only to better sexual performance, but also overall health. Getting massages regularly especial lingam massage and prostate massage.

Age-related decline in testosterone level can also be medically treated by testosterone replacement therapy. Here, the purpose of the therapy is to increase serum level of this hormone by oral administration, injection, or transdermal delivery of testosterone.

Although generally safe, testosterone replacement therapy may not be suitable for all candidates and can carry substantial health risks and side effects. In addition to requiring close monitoring of serum androgen levels, testosterone replacement therapy should only be administered by qualified physicians.

Lingam massage (Lingham massage)

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One of the secrets of Tantra is that the “Sexual Organs” are actually a microcosmic depiction of your whole body-mind system.

Lingam is the scared word the ancient Indians used for the male penis.

The penis was considered to be a holy organ that represents creation and spiritual awareness.

It was chosen as the symbol of Lord Shiva the primary divine male manifestation in Hindu culture.

The penis – seeing the whole in the part

It is very easy to see the Lingam (penis) also spelled lingham.

Every segment of the lingam (penis) represents a different body area as well as a chakra.

For example pressing the area of the penis top can remove head ache and massaging the lower penis can remove abdominal stress and digestion problems.

The relations between the penis and the body during Lingam massage 

Basically the lingam (penis) and the Yoni (Vagina) have many different pleasure zones.

These pleasure zones are not similar in their physiological and emotional effect on our system, every area generate very specific mental state..

The penis is not the only orgasmic area for men.

The male G-spot is most easily reached from the anus.

Basically the penis area is very reach with nerves ending and it can get easily over stimulated.

It is more pleasurable and spiritually beneficial to hold a strong erection and keep the semen for as long as your partner hasn’t yet orgasm.

Internal ejaculation is a state of lasting bliss and expansion without loss of semen or vitality.

The Back and Front sides of the penis

The upper side of the penis is similar to the man back while the lower side of the penis is similar to the male front side (face, chest, and belly).

It means that the facing up side of the penis (when standing) is more passive and receiving while the facing down side is more active, sensitive and emissive.

Working on the upper side is useful for back ace and for cleansing the central channel.

It is the Ying – receiving side,  touching this side will help your man to feel supported and nourished.

Working on the lower side can help for activating emotional aspects and for creating intimacy.

This is the Yang, active side, working on it will help your man to be more active , dynamic and emissive.

It is similar to the Yin and Yang from Chinese Tao.

The upper side is the Yin (female energy) and Lower side Is the Yang (male energy) side.

The most important Lingam massages pleasure zoneslingam massage energy pleasure points

I will explain here about the most important and pleasurable and spiritually important places on the male penis.

Knowing how to stimulate these areas will improve sexuality and sexual performance and will reveal new exciting ways to pleasure your man.

The Fold between the top and the stem of the penis

Very important zone to work on is the area that connects the top of the penis and the stem.

This area is related to the neck.

The neck in Tantra has great significant.

It is the narrowest part of the body.

It is also what connects the mind and body, our emotions and sensation ad our awareness.

It is also a place where a big energy gate/Blockage is placed.

The neck is where Vishuda chakra (the fifth chakra) is located; it is the door that blocks our primordial energy (Kundalin) i from moving from the tail bone toward the head.

It is also what stands between personal perspectives to transpersonal mind perspective.

Touching this area is very pleasurable and spiritually important.

It increases awareness and concentration and allows integration between mind and body, pleasure and awareness.

This is the “present moment” area. Touching there helps to stay present and fully hold the space for pleasurable sensation to be experienced without falling to fantasy or ejaculation.

Massage Safety

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Massage therapy appears to have few serious risks and is not recommended for certain people. The number of serious injuries reported is very small. Side effects of massage therapy may include temporary pain or discomfort, bruising, swelling, and a sensitivity or allergy to massage oils. Cautions about massage therapy include the following: 

Vigorous massage should be avoided by people with bleeding disorders or low blood platelet counts, and by people taking blood-thinning medications such as warfarin.

People with infectious skin disease, rash, or open wounds Massage should not be done in any area of the body with blood clots, fractures, open or healing wounds, skin infections, or weakened bones (such as from osteoporosis or cancer), or where there has been a recent surgery.

Although massage therapy appears to be generally safe for cancer patients, they should consult their oncologist before having a massage that involves deep or intense pressure. Any direct pressure over a tumor usually is discouraged. Cancer patients should discuss any concerns about massage therapy with their oncologist.

Pregnant women should consult their health care provider before using massage therapy.

Immediately after chemotherapy or radiation, unless recommended by your doctor

People prone to blood clots. There is a risk of blood clots being dislodged. 

If you have heart disease, check with your doctor before having a massage

Massage can:

• directly cause new injuries

• aggravate existing problems

• distract patients from more appropriate care

• mildly stress the body If is not provided by a qualified practitioner

Keep your body and ejaculation under control

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Learn how to have an orgasm without actually ejaculating. Since ejaculation follows the orgasm by one or two seconds, it feels essentially the same. Orgasm and ejaculation can be separated and controlled by following these three practices:

1. Controlled breathing.
2. Strengthening the PC (pubococcygeus) muscle.
3. The stop/start method.

Controlled Breathing

1. Not only will long, deep and controlled breathing keep your mind of your genitals and its sensations, it will help you slow down your heartbeat when you’re about to orgasm. Start practicing on your own by taking long, deep breaths and then, counting to three, exhaling as slowly as you can. It’s best to do this through the nose since air passes even slower this way.

2. While making love, when you are coming close to orgasm, your breathing will naturally start to speed up as you become more and more excited. Simply inhale, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly (through the nose). Your body will become more relaxed and you will not ejaculate.

3. According to tantra, you can also control your breathing by “exchanging energy with your partner.” Keep your faces close together while you breathe in and she breathes out, and vice-versa.

4. If you feel you have to stop thrusting to delay ejaculation, then, by all means, stop, but keep your breathing rhythmic and slow. This will calm your body down quicker and you can resume the thrusting.

Strengthening the PC Muscles

1, Since these are the muscles one uses to stop the flow of urine, start practicing by stopping urine at mid stream. Start off just once during urination, then build up by stopping and going a few times.

2. Continue strengthening on your own by tightening the PC muscles several times a day and holding them for a few seconds each time. You’ll gradually build up the strength necessary to use those muscles to stop an orgasm.

3. Lift weights with your penis by giving yourself an erection, hanging a towel or wet washcloth over the end, and trying to lift.

4. Now for the love-making: clamp down on your PC muscles to stop yourself from ejaculating. Do this at the moment you feel an orgasm is about to occur, i.e., when you experience that familiar tingling sensation. You will orgasm without ejaculating, and as a result, stay hard.

The Stop/Start Method

1. Practice on your own by masturbating. Once you feel you are near ejaculating (AKA, the point of no return), pull back until the feeling subsides, and then start again. This way you build up your PC muscles, as well as desensitize your self so that you can last longer.

2. Practice this same approach while having sex. When you feel you are approaching the point of no return, stop what you are doing until the urge subsides. Then start again and stop again when you feel you are approaching orgasm. It may take a few tries to identify the point of no return and to stop before you reach it.

3. Once you reach the first initial orgasm, don’t stop. Continue but only at a pace that is only intense enough to help keep you hard. This can take many times to find the correct pace. You can also tell your partner to slow down or you can get on top so that you can control your movements.

There are also a few things than can be done manually to help a man orgasm without ejaculating. Each of the methods I’m about to describe may result in the man losing part of his erection, but it can be recovered quickly so that he can continue. When the man communicates that he is about to come: 1. The woman can form a “tripod” with her thumb, index and middle fingers, which she places around the tip of his penis and squeezes until the orgasm passes and his body relaxes; 2. The woman can take the palm of her hand and press down on the tip of his penis; 3. The man or woman can grip onto the base of his penis and hold, again until the orgasm passes.

Orgasm vs ejaculation

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Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate processes, so one can occur without the other. However, more often than not, they happen at the same time. Orgasm is the release of sexual tension that has built to a peak — although intensity can vary with each encounter depending on physical or psychological factors. It includes an increase in heart rate, a surge in blood pressure, involuntary muscle contractions in the genitals and spasms in the arms, legs or other areas of his body. In contrast, ejaculation is the expulsion of semen from the tip of the penis.

Some men who can orgasm without ejaculating have perfected the art of flexing their pubococcygeal (PC) muscle during sex, but before ejaculatoryinevitability (the point of no return). This can prevent the fluid from being released. Men can learn to isolate this muscle, which is located in the pelvic area, by stopping urination midstream, and they can strengthen it over time with repeated tightening and releasing exercises.